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Frequently Asked Questions
Q. (INTENTION) “I am the “Queen of Intentions.” I intend to do many things, but seldom do I actually follow through with these or even initiate them. I hate this about myself! How can I follow through with my intentions-HELP! Mikie
A. There is a simple 3 step solution that will help you live an intentional life of physical, mental and spiritual health. There are three components that are the foundation for living an intentional life. I call it ACE your life; A is for Awareness, C is for Choice and E is for Energy. Begin by developing your awareness (A) of your daily experiences. Begin to pay attention and “listen to your life.” Listen to what ignites your passion and creativity and to what gives you energy. Listen to what drains you, distracts you and irritates you. These are the first clues to becoming more conscious of the nature of the life you live now, the life you have already created. Once you are aware of what you want to change you learn to make choices (C). Once you are aware that your life is the result of a series of your choices, you begin to take responsibility for your life. Victim mentality ends when you understand the power of choice. Developing your awareness (A) and making intentional choices (C) creates new energy (E). When you begin listening to your life, you become more aware and make new choices. You will begin to notice an energy swelling within you as you make new choices. You will radiate confidence and a new sense of your own power. As you go through this process write all of this down in a journal so you can look back on your life with great appreciation and gratitude and witness your journey. 
Q.(FEAR) I want to see my future in a less negative and less fearful way. I suffer from a chronic disease and sometimes I only see the pain and despair ahead. How can I change my negative attitude? Patricia
A. New science on the brain tells us that our thoughts, worries and emotions travel down their familiar neuropathways in our brain. Your thoughts travel the same road in your brain over time. Each thought becomes a habit and becomes stronger each day. This fear is a real energy that can rob you of living your life. There are some wonderful solutions to your problem of fear. There is a saying I love that says, “Feel the fear and do it anyway.” The first step is to memorize a short 3-5 word phrase or affirmation that is loving and supportive to your goals. For example, “I am strong, all is well, I am confident in the purpose of my life, etc.” It can be a few words from your favorite scripture or inspirational passage. Every time you become aware of your fear, take a deep cleansing breath and say, “I am strong and confident,” or whatever your affirmation is. I have some suggestions on my stress tips. Next, I suggest you write down your fears on paper and place them in a prayer and concern box. When you do this you are surrendering your fears that are controlling your life, looking at them on paper and placing them in a place to turn them over to your Higher Power or God. Surrender your fears. Guided imagery tapes on fear are incredibly helpful also. Fear can create illness, depression and grief in your life. Please confront this spirit of fear as soon as possible and begin to live your intentional life.
Q. (GUILT) Being recently divorced after a 28 year marriage, my biggest stress is trying to balance having a new life (and love) with expectations of parents, siblings and children and not feel guilty about moving forward with my life. How can I stop feeling so guilty about everything? Lynn
A. Guilt is like a cancer that eats away at us on every level of our existence; mentally, physically and spiritually. Guilt must be examined and dealt with the minute you discover it in your life. First, the past is over, done and gone. Do a short guided imagery and imagine you are in your car and you saw off the review mirrors. You cannot look back because your mirrors are gone. If there is something or someone you need to receive forgiveness from immediately write them and get the slate clean. Next, remember this is your life. You are someone’s daughter, sister and mother but these are roles. You were created to live an intentional life of your dreams. You have flourished in all these roles but now it is time for you. I promise when you begin to value your SELF and practice SELF care those around you will notice your power and energy. They will be forced to change the way they interact with you. I suggest you memorize a short 3-5 word phrase or affirmation that is positive and loving. I have listed some in stress tips. Every time you try to jump back into the guilt trap, take a deep breath and say, “I love and respect my life.” Create your own powerful affirmation. Do not underestimate the power you have in stopping your habitual negative thoughts by creating new thoughts to substitute the old unhealthy ones. Get a piece of paper and write down every thing you feel guilty about. Take these pieces of paper and create a healing ritual where you put the guilt you have amassed in your life on these papers and burn them releasing them forever. You deserve to have a life of love, happiness and peace. Your Source does not want you to live a life clouded by guilt where you cannot feel the brilliant sun of light and love on your face.
Q. (BOUNDARIES) I have a problem with taking on too many commitments and I have a hard time saying no. Sometimes I just seem to be running in a race to get it all done and please everyone. By the days end I find I am asking myself what did I do for me today? What can I do about my overwhelming life? Mary
A. Begin by making a clear list of what is most important in your life. This is a list of what brings you passion and life. This list may be being with your spouse, your children, work or exercising. Then make a list of what sucks the life out of you and is a vampire to your precious energy. Next you must learn to say yes to everything that is on your passion list and learn to say no to anything that is not on this list. This will help you get your life back into balance. You were not created to live your life overbooked, overworked and overwhelmed but only you can change the chaotic life you have created. Please have confidence that you can have the intentional life of balance and happiness you desire. It just takes self discipline and spiritual practices to achieve the life you want.
Q. (WORRY) I have so many regrets about my life, of what I didn’t do while my children were small, bad choices I have made in the past. I find myself worrying about this all the time. How can I stop worrying? Jeanette
A. Worry is very powerful and a real negative energy or force in your life. Worry can literally kill the mind, body and soul. Worry is negative guided imagery. Science tells us that guided imagery is very powerful because the mind believes what we tell it. The truth is worry is a waste of time and 99% of what we worry about never happens. Worry is a serious habit that is very difficult to stop. First memorize a short 3-5 word loving supportive phrase or affirmation. Research tells us that this really works to stop worry. You are stopping the habit of negative self talk and replacing it with positive self talk. Next, keep a memento with you to keep you focused and to help you remember to think positively. This memento can be a rosary, beads, a picture, key chain or small stone. When you begin to worry touch the memento, take a deep breath and say your positive affirmation. You will begin to develop confidence, power and energy and the amount of time you worry will dissipate.
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